My wife carries pregnancy beautifully – I just want to put it out there. Well, to be fair, her second was not as smooth (I mean that figuratively and aesthetically haha!) as her first, but she wasn’t that awful-looking.
To document that, and also because pregnancy is both an exciting and an expensive (putting a stress on the second adjective because it is in fact, not a joke – budget-wise) journey, we, one afternoon, decided to do a very crude photography shoot.
My wife gave birth to Elias Joaquin Adosto last November 2, 2015. He’s a big baby! And I will forever praise Jesus for wife’s normal delivery of him, despite her C-section history with our eldest.
He is planned. We always wanted to have another child – five years after we had Isabelle. I think we have been pretty open about having a big family, considering that both myself and my wife are only child to our respective parents.
The joy is just overwhelming! – especially after learning that what we’ll have is a son. Everyone would think we’re already complete – with a girls that’s in pre-school, and a boy toddler. I would like to think so, yes, but a part of me wants one more. Another boy. And then we’ll be set.
Joaquin is just pure happiness. He got pretty much everything from his mom – brown, hazelnut-colored eyes (like Saab’s), a cute nose, barely-there hair, and full lips. His eyelashes, eyebrows – I would like to believe are from mine.
It’s so beautiful that as much as Isabelle looks like me, Joaquin is the same with his mother. We now have our own mini-me’s. Our Lord God just does wondrous things!
It’s been awhile. Quite a long while. Alot has changed from the last time I wrote in here and I’ll try my best to chronicle my life again in this blog.
Change. How constant this word is.
I think its been about nearly two years since I’ve stopped blogging. Two years ago, I was writing about how my life would be considering that I just left a job that has been paying the bills for the last 8 years. So much uncertainty then. Seriously, the future was daunting looking back.
Now, its much sunnier. Darker clouds have parted to give way to the rays of the sun, if I’m being poetic.
I’ll try and give you guys an inside scoop on how I am now, how my family is now. I look forward to writing again. God, i miss words!
Looking Back, 2014 was not a very good Year for Us. Not-so-good things happened that may have made me Question things. Though I feel like I have fostered better Relationships to my Family, extended family, to God and even to myself, I felt I ran out of luck and had to start anew on so many aspects and on so many levels. Or maybe, so I thought.
I started the year being Sick. I lost 20 lbs. due to measles and was on bedrest for about two weeks. In a long time, it was only this year that I felt too sick to function and had to totally rely on my wife and on myself to be better.
I left my job of 8 years to try my luck on a Different Career. Experienced rejections applying to Jobs here and there when for five years, I would do the rejection and the accepting myself. Realized that I didn’t have it all, that companies would not brave storms to have me as part of their organization, that I am not that good on so many fields. Career was on an upside down that I questioned my skills and competencies; if I would in fact be able to start a New one, and prove that I still have what it takes to advance and redo the Victorious cycle that I had with my previous employer. 2014 was all I needed to Know that I’m not super. That I am as thriving to survive career-wise as anyone else.
With that comes the realization that I, we, are not economically ready to make big decisions in Our lives. That sometimes following your heart doesn’t mean making the right decisions. I don’t have any regrets, Honestly, because I would not have that feeling of freedom and control right now had I succumbed to my doubts. Just maybe, if I took the right timing, things would have been a little more seamless. Sometimes, one just has to go thru that to realize his mistakes and sadly that has been our case.
So now, we have to Accept that the next months, even the next years, are not going to be the same as the previous. That we have to have a case of good resource Management. That we need to put value in everything that we spend. And that we have to see the benefits of saving.
It was also this year that I discerned that my folks are not anymore as young and as healthy as they used to be. For the longest time, I have viewed my mom as a superwoman – never gets tired, never gets old. Since Time immemorial, she has been the only person who financially supports us and makes the most major decisions in our family. I have always thought she’s clothed in an armor – strong, invincible, dependable.
And now, I have to accept that things are not always going to be like that. That as much as I grow, mature and make myself of a man, she too, gets old, Weak, vulnerable to sickness and would eventually need to rest. Story of all of us. The inevitable end to all of our struggle.
She got sick this year and now has to have maintenance for high blood pressure – that I need to be in the process of accepting. My mom, who has been strong for me, needs me now to be strong for her. She needs my support more than ever. I have to be with her in every step of the way. Things are starting to be on the opposite side and moving forward, and I have to be ready.
I just want this year to be over and see things at their Zenith in 2015. I am hopeful. I am yearning to be more Positive. I have to start having an X-ray vision of the future to prepare in the present. 2014 may not have been good. But I will make sure 2015 will be far better.
A joke was raised by one of my market research respondents after he called to inquire about when he will be receiving his participation honorarium.
Mr. Altman was a fairly jolly fellow. He recently joined one of our studies and was actually praised for speaking his mind spontaneously and for being open to talking about almost any topic. He first talked about how the weather in the States have been crazy recently. And though I am not really in the same location, I had to somehow say I was and relate to how cold the rest of the country currently is.
Here’s his joke:
Two Jewish fathers, friends for a long time, was talking about how their sons had turned out to be their own persons now, specifically, spiritually:
Father 1: You know what, it’s insane! My son has turned Christian!
Father 2: I can definitely relate. My son’s also turned Christian and I don’t know what to do!
Father 2: Maybe we can approach God and ask Him how’d we go about this.
Father 1: I agree.
And so, both fathers sought audience from God and when both was before Him and explained their woes, God replied:
God: Quite honestly, I don’t know what to say to you two, as my Son’s also one.
Message from church hit home today. I realize I often complain about how unfortunate I can be. How I would have to work for every penny I have, strive for every little success I achieve.
You see, I haven’t been someone who’s too lucky in raffle draws. I’ve participated in countless, but I am yet to gather winnings. Just recently, I almost squandered my 8 years worth of hard-earned early retirement package from the previous company I worked for shopping from the country’s biggest mall. This is so I can win myself and my family a fully furnished condominium unit and forget that we have to set aside a part of my paycheck every month for rent.
Several months had passed, and nobody had sent me a text message saying I’m lucky enough I won. So I guess, old sweet music?
Two weeks ago, I was automatically qualified to join a contest with an Iphone 5S as a prize because I shopped for groceries on a nearby supermarket. You heard it right, it’s not even the coveted Iphone 6. It’s the previous model. And we’ll, it’s been two weeks and I am still using my pre-loved 4S so I’m pretty much sure the me-winning ship had sailed two weeks ago too!
Sometimes, I ask. When will my luck happen? Am I really that unfortunate? Am I not lucky enough to be blessed with something that I wouldn’t actually work for? Will the world be always unfair for me?
And so the question of being blessed is raised. Does it always have to be about finances? Favor for provision? Economic advancements?
What about me being blessed to have found the love of my life this early in my life? What about me having the smartest, cutest little girl to have as a daughter? What about the fact that my mother and the rest of the family being always with me and have supported all of my decisions?
What about me having a God who saved me, removed my shame and continues to love me?